The new dating situation

I have a brand new update for you guys. I recently started talking to a girl who I met through the match dating service. She seems pretty cool and funny. She has a good personality. The only dilemma(sp?) I have is simply not knowing if I am wanting a committed relationship. I think it is hard to tell if you want to be committed to someone you hardly know. I have also been enjoying my newfound freedom as a single guy. I have the freedom to talk to any girl I want and hang out with any girl without anything being said or anyone being pissed off. If I do meet a girl, I want to hang out and be friends with them for a while before anything officially starts to occur. I enjoy being able to go out and talk to girls without feeling the guilt that I have a girlfriend who is going to be mad or upset that I was hanging out with other girls. I want to give this girl a chance because she could be a lot of things I am looking for in a future relationship. I guess I am scared of disappointing but you really have to do what is right for yourself. You can't live your life worrying if you are going to hurt someone's feelings over a situation. I am sure the right thing will come of it. I will update you guys as soon as I am able to on the situation. 

 

I've learned so much..

The subject behind my blog today is the beautiful realization I have made in concern to the opposite sex. For so long I have only felt content with the fact that if I found a girl to get in a relationship with, it would be then that I felt "complete" and "stable". I have learned that it isn't about being dependent on someone else for the way you feel. You shouldn't invest your life into someone else to simply make yourself feel secure. I have learned that when I do meet women, I don't have to feel an obligation to that person but to just let it be. If something happens to steer it in a meaningful direction(relationship) then that would be great. If a relationship or friendship doesn't occur, it was nice knowing that person. Guys and girls alike tend to overanalyze different situations with the opposite sex. We want to think about the future more than the present situation. We have to live in the now and not in the tomorrow. Many get their heart involved in various situations and think about "what if she/he is the one". I would say that it is much better to just have a few drinks and share some intelligent conversation over creating "what if situations" in your mind about others. If you really want to meet people, the best way is to keep it cool and be comfortable in your own skin. No one wants to talk to a person who is trying too hard to be someone that they aren't. I have just now realized that this blog is turning into a "how to pick up people" blog and it really isn't. I guess I am trying to stress that so many people are wrapped up in all the things that don't really matter until later on down the road when those situations are presented. If you ever see a beautiful guy or girl and you are wondering why they are with the type of person they are with, you should either feel pity for them because they haven't realized who they are with or they just aren't worth your time anyway. There are still quality people out in the world which is something I forget much of the time. If you are reading this and are already married then it probably doesn't apply to you. You could probably identify with this at one point in your life or know someone who is dealing with this situation. I just felt like I should empty this out of my thought process so that I can move on with my life. Hopefully this blog helped someone. I will return soon with yet another insightful blog in the future.