The stance on gay marriage

Something that I have been thinking much about lately is the whole gay marriage debate. A few years ago, had you asked me about what my stance was then I would tell you that it was straight up wrong and that it shouldn't happen. It has been a struggle to find a view on it but I have become more moderate in my political views as time passes by. I know that in the Bible, they see the act of homosexuality being sin and an abomination but I just can't see why it is seen as such a black and white issue. I know many of my brothers and sisters in the Christian community turn their nose up and say that homosexuals "choose" to be that way. I just don't understand this because in my case being straight, I have always been attracted to girls. I haven't had a time in my life when I have woken up and thought "I really want to get all over a guy today". This posing another question, if what I believe is that homosexuals are born the way they are then why is it written through prophets by God that it is an abomination to act this way. I see it being the same principle as someone who is mentally retarded. If the Bible said it was sin to be born mentally retarded, would we stop trying to reach out to the mentally retarded community and stop being Christ-like to them. If you are homosexual and reading this please do not think that I am trying to compare you to a mentally retarded person. All I am saying is that it is a similar principle when you look at the biology as far as the way it affects the way we are. I think that regardless of your beliefs or the way you live your life, I don't think the government should tell you who you can fall in love with or be with legally. People who are gay as well as any other person are just trying to be happy and live a happy life being with the person they love. It is sad in the Christian community when we just judge and make decisions without even thinking about it beneath the surface. We only want to take issues at face value. People have this mindset that since we are different then it means that I can't relate to you which is bullshit. Everyone can relate and love one another but we just keep allowing religion and politics to dictate and cause division. We are all brothers and sisters but we don't act like it a lot of times. All you need is love and God equals love so let's spread some God around(sorry, that was really corny and I am probably going to get ragged by Sam Crum about it being a church marquee(sp?)). In all seriousness, let's stop hating and start loving. Is it really that difficult?